Equality

"Equality of the sexes" .. yes that is Feminism's definition and goal. I suppose what I'm establishing is a new or perhaps multi-dimensional definition of equality. Feminism proposes a much needed definition of equality of the sexes: that women and men are equal human beings, deserving of the same rights, privileges and equal access. I agree with this wholeheartedly. My definition of equality goes one step further in demanding equality of choice. If an adult male, fully aware of himself and his choices, chooses to serve a dominant woman, isn't that the creation of another sort of equality. Freedom of choice in how to live one's life. To deny him that privilege because it doesn't suit your idea of equality ... well, isn't that another sort of imperialism? Be free to make choices, except when they differ from what I would choose for you...

If an adult female makes the same choice or chooses to serve a male dominant, the equality of the sexes still exists. She was not forced into this role, it's something she chose. One the biggest problems of the American feminist movement has been its disregard for other cultures and their traditions and its imperialistic imposition of its beliefs on said cultures. Damning BDSM as an unhealthy & wrong choice for everyone is a shade of that imposition. Historically and currently feminism is making the same mistake as other such movements; defining the world through its own eyes and limiting those it would help to choices that it approves of and supporting only those choices. This is no different than the oppression feminists fight so fervently to overcome ... it's another type of imperialism. An "I know what's best for you" attitude that is exclusionary, sexist and totalitarian.
I simply refuse to take part in that ... so I must ask myself, 'am I still a feminist?' My answer is yes, just a much more open minded and accepting one.